Life has been pretty crazy the past few weeks! Honestly, I didn’t even realize I had been go-go-going until I got a bug last week.
self reflection tips
Do you ever take a moment of self reflection and say to yourself, “holy smokes I have a lot on my plate”? That’s exactly what happened to me last week. Along with being a wife, dog-mom, daughter, sister, and friend, I also came to the realization that I’ve allowed a lot of things to pile up on my plate. I didn’t notice at first because I was having a lot of fun with it all! But, unfortunately, my to-do list got too long to manage; therefore, it was time for some self reflection.
tip #1 – brain dump
Personally, this is the hardest part of self reflection for me! It’s that moment when I realize exactly how much I have going on and come to the conclusion that I can’t physically accomplish it all. But, once you finish your brain dump, you’ll feel much better! It’s like cleaning out your closet – first you take a look at everything you have, then you can decide what to keep, what to store seasonally, or what to donate and / or throw away.
Without boring you with all of my life deets, here’s a glimpse at my brain dump:
- Full time day job at Dunlap Marketing
- A member of the board of directors for the Houston branch of Business Marketing Association (BMA)
- Chair of the Young Professionals / Networking committee for BMA
- Define Body & Mind training
These are the things that take up the majority of my time. I didn’t include other activities such as exercising, planning meals, making time for family and friends, etc. I see these things as stress relievers as compared to stress contributors.
tip #2 – prioritize
Let’s stick with the cleaning out your closet example – now that you’ve taken a look at all your clothes, it’s time to start sorting into different piles. What are the items you’ll wear this season? Are there items you won’t be wearing for 4-5 months? Do you have pieces you haven’t worn in the past 2 years? Prioritizing your clothes is the best way to decide what stays and what goes.
This is exactly how I like to prioritize my life – haha. So, take a look at your brain dump. What are the most important things on your list (aka – what pays the billzzz)? What do you find most fun? Is there something you can put on pause? What isn’t worth one more second of your time?
Here’s an overview of how my prioritization went:
THIS is what pays the bills! While there are tons of perks that come with working for the family company, there is also a decent amount of pressure. I can admit the pressure is 110% self inflicted and I know this is something I need to work on about myself! However, I have some BIG shoes to fill one day and I want to do my absolute best to make my dad and family proud!
I can’t put into words how much I am learning being on the BMA board and in the presence of some of the best marketers in Houston (for real!!). I am also lucky enough to serve at the chair of the Young Professionals / networking committee. With this comes a lot of planning – I’m talking happy hours, mentor matching events, etc. I have the BEST committee a girl could ask for, though! I couldn’t do it without them!!
The entrepreneur in me wants to make something big out of kedgotwed one day. Sometimes, I have to take a step back and remind myself it’s not going to happen overnight, though. As I mentioned above, I put a lot of unnecessary stress on myself at times. Kedgotwed is something that’s fun and a creative outlet for me – I need to remember to keep it that way! If it’s meant to be big one day, it will be!!!
Define Body & Mind
I have officially started training to become an instructor at Define Body & Mind! I’ll be trained to teach revolution, a rhythm-based cycling class. For months and months I wanted to apply at Define, but my anxiety held me back. Once I got a handle on my anxiety, I knew it was time to take the leap!
The training for Define is a big reason I haven’t had as much time to dedicate toward kedgotwed the past few weeks. Every spare moment I have, I’m on my computer making a playlist, reading a training manual, or in the studio practicing. Don’t get me wrong, I’m LOVING all the training and know it will sooooo be worth it!
tip #3 – make a plan
Now that we have taken a look at everything in the closet and prioritized it, it’s time to start putting your clothes back in place. Some items need to be donated or thrown out, while others need to be stored for another season. The rest can neatly be put back on hangers and stay front and center in your closet!
This is exactly what should be done after your brain dump and prioritization. Make a plan – what will you allow to stay on your plate? What will you put on the back burner? And most importantly, what is no longer worth your time?
For me, I came to the conclusion that I need to slow it down a bit with kedgotwed. It makes me sad to say this, but I know it’s best for me AND for the future of kedgotwed. The worst thing that could happen is I get burned out and give up. I truly believe if I take a step back, I will come back stronger!
tip #4 – hit the ground running
Now it’s time to get back to work! We’ve brain dumped, prioritized, and made a plan. Let’s execute that plan! Do your best to stick with your plan, but keep in mind that no one is perfect. In a few months, it might be time to do this exercise again…and that’s a-okay!!
Has this been a helpful post? What tips do you have for self reflection? I’d love to hear your thoughts and ideas!
Lots of love – ked